Then came the our oldest son's First Holy Communion. Now we felt we could have the right to keep him with us in the pew. Again, the catechists and the pastor persisted and we foolishly allowed him to leave our side. This time with a most terrible lesson. During the "Children's Liturgy of the Word" they were taught a very uncatholic teaching on the Eucharist...more Lutheran than Catholic, and then the catechists proceeded to hand out bread and grape juice! Our son, somewhat confused by this, went along for the ride and then returned to our pew. He whispered to me, "Dad, they made us eat bread and grape juice, is that ok?" Considering he was minutes from receiving our Lord in Holy Communion, I was rather shocked and told him, "No!"
I had to then quickly explain to him about the Eucharistic Fast, which he already knew, and let him know he would be unable to receive our Lord that day. Tears welled up in his eyes, and he asked, "why did they do that?' "I don't know son, I don't know."
While we considered the DRE of the parish, one of our friends, we had to confront this situation. In the end, she apologized for the acts of the un-catechised lay catechist (who also happened to be a immodestly dressed teenager) and stated it would not happen again. We replied, "You're darn tooten, it ain't, cuz our kids are never going to participate again!
This of course set us against the pastor and those in leadership. We soon became known as a little radical. But this situation should highlight how easy it is to hand over the catechizing or our children to strangers, how much it is encouraged in the modern parish, and how destructive it can be. Imagine if my son would have not said anything....he may have lost the faith in the Real Presence!