"Even when a husband's command or decision is less than optimal, though not immoral, it should be followed, at least until there is an appropriate time to consult with him. That appropriate time is hardly ever in front of the children." Dilsaver, TMM
Just consider the bishop or priest that openly disagrees with the Holy Father or even worse, the true Magisterial teaching of the Church. This open "rebellion" or dissension has done numerous harms to the Body of Christ, especially over the past 60 years and it is no different in the family structure. When the father is either constantly thwarted or disagreed with in front of the children, the children learn that he is not to be obeyed or followed. While many Christian spouses would be hesitant to admit that this happens in their homes, one only has to think about the actions of the children. If the child wants a sweet or to do something out of the ordinary, does the child go ask the father or mother first? Or does the child ask both parents in hopes that one will answer differently than the other and in turn pit them against each other.
It should be the habit of the home to always seek the direction of the father. Why? Put simply, it is the design of God. God has given the cross of responsibility to the father. This also means that by obeying his authority, even when one might disagree with it, graces will flow. Christ was obedient unto death. The Blessed Mother and the Christ Child were both obedient to St. Joseph, the lower man in the sphere of spiritual gifts, but higher in God-given authority. This is obviously a challenging word in this modern age of equality at all costs. But we have to ask ourselves, what graces are we thwarting by not following the familial structure designed by God?