"It is the anti-Christian ideologies of secularism and liberalism - embodied in the modern state and promoted by the mass media - that have directed the attack upon the traditional familial order. These ideologies, inherently materialistic and therefore at least in practice atheistic, hold that the state is the highest, in fact, the only legitimate authority that exists. As a corollary to what is tantamount to the deification of the state, an absolute code of morality ensues where man is viewed purely as a political being and his good defined exclusively in terms of political rights. And the issuance and bestowal - or rescinding - of these rights are the exclusive domain of the state. It is the state, not God, from which these rights are seen to originate; and it the state, not man's nature in the image of God, which defines these rights" TMM, Dilsaver pg 167
Traditional familial order in these disturbing days can often be buried under the issue of one man and one woman marriage. However, seen in the light of biblical history, we are speaking of a more richer understanding of the family and the hierarchy establishes a proper order. For to speak of family without a hierarchy is to speak of a family in disorder. This disorder comes directly from the denial that there is a God-established duty for each member of the family, and that in failing to fulfill this duty is to fail in truly being "family".
Destruction of the traditional family is not the result of same-sex marriage, but same-sex marriage is the result of the destruction of the traditional familial order. Let's face it, if families were functioning and beautiful order carried out in the majority of families, it would perpetuate itself. However, each member of the modern family seeks his or her own rights, goods, and way. No longer does the family function as a cohesive whole, in which each member sacrifices for the others. Fathers selfishly seek wealth and power in the workplace forfeiting their kingly dignity for wage-slavery. Mothers abandon sacrifice and selfless service of the family for increased wealth, entertainment, and control. Children are thrown to the wolves through over-involvement in modern sports and activities that promote selfish individualism and fame over humble development toward their ultimate goal of eternity with God the Father. These perversions are the root of the current state of the redefinition of marriage, and these are what the modern state and culture have peddled to the world over the last 100 years.
Why has the destruction of the family been on the agenda of the state? As Dr. Dilsaver states, it is the goal of the state to gain power and claim sole arbitration over rights and authority. By disrupting the order of the family authority structure, the state is able to supplant the father as the guide and leader. The state becomes the sole authority that every member of the state goes to, to decide what is right and wrong. This can be seen in the power of the modern state education system, that daily gains more and more time and power over the children forfeited to it. The behemoth now feeds them three meals a day, bandages their injuries, indoctrinates them, provides counseling and health care, and then attempts to "educate" them for future productive roles in society. Teachers view parents, and especially fathers, as threats to their authority, and will either politely snub their leadership, or outright tell them, "I know better for your child - after all I spend more time with them every day!"
As the political powers pretend to quarrel over the so-called issues of the day, let us return our focus to our own area of responsibility - our family. What we need is the power of Elias, "that he may turn the hearts of the fathers unto the children, and the incredulous to the wisdom of the just, to prepare unto the Lord a perfect people" (Luke 1:17). So many seek to place more and more power into the hands of the politicians, on both sides of the aisle, that the state is assured to gain the power it seeks. The only answer to the issues of the day, is a turning of the hearts of men to true Christian Manhood, true leadership, and true kingly, priestly, and prophetic fatherhood.
The reality of the evil that looms in our post-Christian culture can be glimpsed in the above Japanese animation http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfJZ6nwxD38 feature=player_embedded.
And remember the second target was Japan's Catholic city of Nagasaki. 6–9 August 1945
"At that time, when Jesus entered into the boat, His disciples followed Him: and behold a great tempest arose in the sea, so that the boat was covered with waves, but He was asleep. And His disciples came to Him and awaked Him, saying: Lord, save us, we perish. And Jesus saith to them: Why are you fearful, O ye a little faith? Then rising up, He commanded the winds and the sea, and there came a great calm. But the men wondered, saying: What manner of man is this, for the winds and the sea obey Him?" Mt 8:23-27
This reading from the 4th Sunday after Epiphany gives us men a great deal to think about. After all, we can each ask ourself, "What manner of man am I?"
For us men that are blessed to be fathers, we can acknowledge those times where we are literally asleep during some familial "crisis". It might be a sickness, an unfortunate bad dream, an impudent intruder of the rodent type, or at best - when your "woman-with-child" says, "Honey, it's time!" Most of us are willing to spring into action when needed, and I would hope that most of us would have the will power and reserve to remain calm in whatever situation we find ourselves in. This is that magnanimity of heart that Dr. Dilsaver speaks of in his book, "The Three Marks of Manhood". "Magnanimity depends on the greatness of a man's concerns, which he can choose and develop, and upon his natural baseline aptitude." Thus, Christ could say to the winds and sea to be calm, because His concerns were with the eternal, and in the "big picture" the storm at sea was a small matter. Remember the parable of the mustard seed?
The the magnanimous man leading his family, the ebb and flow of life, the ups and downs, are met with a calm reserve and trust in the Divine Hand of God. This man knows that God the Father is the ultimate Father from whom all other fathers get their name and calling. He places his firm trust in God for all things and does not make a "mountain out of a mole-hill." Dilsaver quotes Josef Pieper's explanation of magnanimity:
"Magnanimity is the expansion of the spirit toward great things; one who expects great things of himself and makes himself worthy of it is magnanimous. The magnanimous man is to a certain extent "particular": he does not allow himself to become concerned with everything that comes along, but rather only with those great things that are suitable for him....The magnanimous man does not complain, for his heart does not permit him to be overcome by any external evil. Magnanimity encompasses an unshakable firmness of hope, a plainly defiant certainty, and the thorough calm of a fearless heart." (cited from TMM)
Taking this manly spirit into consideration, one wonders how the fearful disciples could have been concerned with the tempest. While us men may strive to be magnanimous and of a "stout heart" we may find ourselves, at times, confused, bewildered, fearful, and struggling under our weakness. In these times we must, just as these fearful disciples did, "submit [ourselves] not to the confusion of feelings or to any human being or to fate -- but only to God." (Pieper) By the very virtue of our calling to Patriarchal leadership, we must take our concerns to God the Father, and then, with our enlarged hearts, accept the burden of our cross. At times this may be answering the call of duty at 3am with a sick child, at other times it may mean deciding to forgo some comfort for the sake of the Gospel and our family.
So what manner of men are we?